Fødselsdilemmaet / The Birth Dilemma
Do you live with a basic feeling of being a bad person?
That there is something fundamentally wrong with you?
Deep-seated feelings like these express themselves in many ways.
For example:
The feeling that you deserve less than others.I am not worth loving.
Not worthy of love.
Not daring to ask for things - pay rise, more space, etc.
For some people, this has been created all the way back in their birth situation.
Many births involve pain for the birthing mother.
A child may come to take the blame for this pain.
The child is not able to grasp the whole situation - that his mother knew full well that giving birth could involve pain and that it is ok.
There are as many birth stories as there are are human beings and there is not a common thread that runs through which results in a birth dilemma.
So we cannot say that when a birth has been so and so painful, traumatic, prolonged, has ended with a baby in an incubator, caesarean section, etc. then this creates the dilemma.
Births that have been problem-free from the outside may well have founded the dilemma - perhaps the mother was anxious about the birth.
And births with serious complications can be conflict-free in baby.
When we approach the birth situation from a Transformative Healing perspective, it becomes clear that it can create obstacles on our path if we have beliefs associated with this caused pain.
The result is that people grow up with a basic assumption that they do harm, they cause pain.
This assumption is completely unconscious and dates back to the time before the person had words.
What does it do to a person to have as one of their basic settings that they harm those they love, those who are close?
By its mere existence?
It's stressful. Shameful.
There is an undertone of desperation because there is no solution.
It holds the person back from taking their place in the world.
WITHOUT THE PERSON UNDERSTANDING WHY.
Few people want to harm those around them.
They don't want to destroy or cause pain to another person - and especially not a person they love.
So if you live with the basic assumption that you hurt others, this can result in you avoiding close relationships - without on the surface understanding of why.
Or it can manifest itself in them staying in relationships they are uncomfortable in because they don't want to cause pain by ending the relationship.
If this resonates with your inner landscape book a series of transformative healing sessions or a Medical Intuitive Package.
Together we can create a different reality for you.